What Makes Kizomba Sexy?

“Kizomba is too sexy” and “How can you dance kizomba with people you don’t know?” were pretty normal for me to hear when I first started teaching and performing in 2012. It’s surprising to me that I’m still hearing them today, when kizomba has been in the UK and US for several years.

I’ve written about this topic in the past, but this time I’d like to present a video guide to help clear up some of the misconceptions about kizomba as an inherently sexy dance. While there are many factors contributing to this perception, in my opinion, there is only thing that makes kizomba sexy: the intention of the dancer.

What Is Kizomba?

Kizomba is a dance that came from Angola, a word meaning “party” in Kimbundu. It comes out of another Angolan dance called semba. You can see a nice set of clips in this introductory video from Nemanja Sonero.

Kizomba was – and still is – danced at parties where family and friends were enjoying some music together.

What’s so sexy about that?


For me this is the only factor that truly makes kizomba become sexy. When we choose to put our energy into being attractive to someone else, whether it’s focused on our partner or all about putting on a show, then our kizomba will definitely come through as sexy.

I searched “kizomba” on YouTube and this was the first hit:

I think it’s pretty clear from the very start that Sara Lopez most likely intends her dancing to be sexy. She is doing large isolations that focus attention on her butt, while her partner almost stands still. She is “dancing up on him.” It comes across as a sexy exhibition.

Yet it’s possible to show off kizomba ginga in a performance without making it sexy. Watch how Adda’s movement is integrated into her steps. Isolations in the pelvis are done with her partner, and they show playful interaction.


The way kizomba has been sold to people has also contributed to its sexy reputation. I came across this ad in my Facebook News Feed a while back.

Besides the unfortunate slogan “Get Kizzed,” I was struck the positioning of the couples. In the foreground, a man lunging over a woman who is crouched down with her knees spread apart. In the background, a woman pressed up against the wall with her knee lifted up to her partner’s waist. Neither of these are positions I associate with kizomba. The intention is what is significant: clearly the ad is meant to draw people in by giving the dance a sexy context.

YouTube is filled with kizomba dance videos created as viral promotional materials, and sex sells, right? Videographers often further sexualize the material by zooming in on anything particularly sexy… as in this video.

There are also elements in kizomba dancing that may be connected to sexiness in people’s minds.

Close Embrace

Many people find the idea of being in such a close hold inherently sexy. But context (and intention, again!) matters. Having my breasts in contact with another person isn’t sexy in the context of hugging a friend or being squeezed into an overcrowded airport shuttle, so it needn’t be sexy in kizomba hold, either. In addition, dancing kizomba doesn’t involve any contact in the groin – grinding isn’t a feature.

Look at this close embrace: nothing sexy about it, if you ask me.

But notice in this next video how Ronie Saleh avoids staying in full embrace with his brother Armanch. And every so often they jokingly bring in some sexy movement, as though to show they are aware of people’s assumptions when seeing two men dance kizomba (barechested!)

African Origins

Since the dawn of European imperialism, African bodies and dances have been hyper-sexualized. European traditions include few art forms that allow people to celebrate the sensuality of being fully present in their bodies. Europeans (and later, Americans) have also looked down on baring much skin publicly.

Even today, videos of women in traditional dress engaged in African dances have been equated by major social media platforms with sexual content – meaning it gets age-restricted or even deleted. YouTube channels like TV Yabantu have had to fight Google over this Western bias, saying: “You talk about community standards, but you’re only talking about western community, not African community.” (Read more about their struggles here).

Take, for example, this Zulu dance of thanksgiving to the goddess of spring:

Exoticism is alive and well in the international kizomba scene, too. I won’t boost views by sharing one, but plenty of kizomba performances have featured non-African dancers playing at being “primitive” tribespeople, decked out in skins or face paint and equating wild with sexy.

Pelvis Movement

A lot of people encounter “kizomba” in videos that are mostly tarraxinha, which I concede focuses on some sexy isolations and undulations.

In contrast, if we look at an Angolan TV kizomba competition, you’ll see lots of motion in the pelvis, but it feels joyful and celebratory, rather than sexy.

Confused about what tarraxinha is? Nemanja Sonero has another useful video for you:

In the context of kizomba dancing, it’s common to see elements of tarraxinha included in kizomba dancing in a quiet way, without it getting sexy. Sonja of Kikizomba often uses this kind of movement, whether she’s leading or following.

Is Kizomba The Sexiest Dance Ever?

To be honest, this is not a question I ever expected from the BBC. The title is pure clickbait and they didn’t choose the best video clips but I love what one woman says at the end: “Kizomba is not a dance about how you look; it’s a dance for how you feel.”

It seems easy to answer the question then: no. There are plenty of other dances that focus on being attractive or even arousing to the viewer. Kizomba is about the feeling created in the moment you share with your partner, so how sexy it is depends entirely on what kind of feeling you intend to have.

Let us know about your experiences with the sexiness of kizomba!

Found this interesting? You might like my other article Sexy Times On The Dance Floor!

Feature photo credit: JS Almonte

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  1. says: Jay K Mandal

    I don’t think being Sexy is a Crime.. so I don’t like the fact when people tag Sara everytime and say “she intends her dancing to be sexy”. ..There are many lead and known Instructors dancing with her in that video. Moreover the Elji’s track in this particular video is more of high tempo, modern version of music, and I don’t think it allows typical/authentic kizomba ginga movements #personalopinion. So to me its a wrong comparison. Also, I did not find anything wrong or unacceptable in the picture shown in Marketing.
    Recently there was post in Facebook where Sara was again criticized for dancing with a small girl, and there were comments like she is sexualizing the dance with kids. A year back there was a similar video where Eliza Sala was dancing with a small girl and it was much appreciated. The word “Sexy” can have many interpretation & depends how people see it, some use it as “compliment” while other see it as “vulgarity”. It;s all in our mind and our mindset.

    1. Hi Jay, thanks for sharing. I think it’s interesting that you are adding a filter of judgment to the word “sexy.” My aim is to show that sexiness is something that may be brought to kizomba through dancers’ intentions, but that it is not innate to the dance. However, I do not condemn sexy dancing. You say you don’t think being sexy is a crime – why then would you be bothered by people saying Sara’s dancing appears sexy? I agree that some modern music doesn’t lend itself to dancing with authentic ginga – and when people choose to perform with that music, it also sets a certain intention about what kind of dance they want to show. I also think there’s a difference between sexy and sexual – see Laura Riva’s post on that topic: https://www.danceplace.com/grapevine/sexual-vs-sensual-vs-sexy/

    2. says: WM

      I don’t think the problem with Sara is that she intends her dancing to be sexy. Most people intend that, right? Rather, the problem is that when she appears it’s all about ass movement, as if kizomba was nothing more than that. It also doesn’t help that actual kizomba flavor and technique goes unnoticed, if not ignored or just kicked right out the window, as in that video. “Sex sells, so fuck everything else”.

      The picture shown in Marketing is not unacceptable, no-one said that. It’s just itchy and in poor taste, feels more like a swingers pub than a kizomba party. It certainly doesn’t look like a place I would recommend to my sister, or bring a first date to. To think that kizomba is supposed to be a family dance!

      You are right that it’s all about the mindset; and Sara and Eliza both have built very different mindsets around themselves. One is about kizomba, the other is about sex. Nothing wrong with sex; it just is something different to kizomba.